In every shooting course I take at some point the instructor sets the students up to potentially shoot an innocent person.
It goes something like this…man walks up to you and ask for money or directions. The student tells him to get back, he doesn’t, student pulls gun, instructor says, “hey, hey, this guy just wanted to know how to get to Wal Mart.” “Haven’t you ever asked for directions before.”
It is true that 99% of the time the person is probably just wanting directions. It is true that we do live in a polite society where we help each other out, but for me that is no longer an option.
For me, unless I know you and well, you may not ask me for the time, money, directions, or even tell me I left the lights on in my car. No, I am not going to start screaming, yelling, drawing my gun or shooting anyone, necessarily, but 100% my response will to move back and firmly tell you no.
There is no 100% solution. Danger lurks and even when you do everything right bad things can happen, so for me it makes sense to stack the odds in my favor as much as humanly possible without living in a state of paranoia.
This poor woman was killed by her neighbor. Apparently, she knew this man casually and it seems perfectly reasonable for her to give him a ride to work. I would be surprised though if it doesn’t come out that she and/or her husband found him creepy. Couldn’t put their finger on it, but he was just off. Almost always our instincts warn us and time and time again many of us do not listen.
That is not an indictment against this woman. Maybe she didn’t feel that way or even if she did, it is so a part of us to quite those thoughts and help. She was kind and compassionate. There is zero fault in her behavior. The animal who violated her is the only one who is at fault. My only concern is what we can learn from our own choices and from choices of others.
Yes, I carry a gun and yes my choice would have been to try to shoot him, but if I am in a car with my gun on my hip and another one pointing at me, at the very least I need a little time probably to get to my gun. I have other ideas like ramming the car into a poll or something before I willing drive to my own death, but all of this requires some forethought and plan A, B, C, all the way to Z if need be.
I have no advice. I only have encouragement for each of us to continually be thinking about these things. Can we be more aware? Do we need to do a better job listening to our inner voice? Do we have a plan for this?
Please be safe!