Tidbits

I want to clear up a few things…

First, I don’t mind at all when people share my story or posts I write.  I appreciate when people ask, but my site is public and anyone can read it, so it’s free game. 

Second, I don’t want anyone to change their post for me.  I know that occasionally I have mentioned that I read a post that was difficult for me to read, but that doesn’t mean I want it gone. My story is tough for me to tell and sometimes it is tough for me to read about, but I think it needs to be told.  The number of emails I get every single day telling me that sharing my story and my journey has been beneficial to someone is staggering, at least to me.  There are days that I get sick of sharing it and days that I think does anyone really want to read one more post about how I managed to get through the day or do they have any interest in my latest breakthrough.  The answer is yes.  This is not universally true.  All you have to do is visit a few forums to find out I annoy the heck out of some folks, but they are not the ones emailing.  The men and women emailing find some sense of comfort and strength in my story and they are why I keep sharing. I know what it is like to be lost and to have people reach out.  I know how incredible healing it is to have someone, even a person you don’t know, reach out and say your not alone and I care.  Other than my internal strength that was hiding deep inside of me, the people who cared for me, their love is what inspired me not to wallow in self pity, but instead to flourish and grow.  I mention the posts that are hard for me because I want to be authentic. The more people who share my story from their prospective, the more people who will be touched.  I don’t believe anyone is being malicious when they write about me, well not the people I write about on here anyway, and I don’t want anyone to stifle their writing to protect me.  As you all have pointed out, I am tougher than I think.  I can take it.  If you write something I think I can’t handle I will send you a little note and we can discuss it, but I don’t anticipate that ever happening.  If you come here and read something I haven’t written discussing your post about me, please do not apologize or change it.  I wouldn’t be sending people your way if I didn’t think what you wrote had merit.  However, to the men that have contacted me on different occasions to offer to change something or to offer comfort for possibly making me uncomfortable, you are true gentleman and I could not respect you more.  Thank you.

Thirdly, there is a new blogger who had decided to use A Girl and Her Gun as her blog name.  Since I had no plans of becoming a blogger, I never purchased the domain name, so she is free to do so.  I did submit paperwork to trademark, but that is a process.  Just wanted to let you know that this is my site.  I didn’t change anything, so if you happen upon another blog with my name, it isn’t me.  Of course, you all have free will to visit any blog you want, but it would kill me if you called her AGirl:) I did try to contact her just to let her know that I am here, but she never responded.  I am sure she is a lovely gal and I wish her no ill will and her blog is probably  great, but I do think it is a little rude to use a name already being used.  Not sure how anyone will know who is who on the GBBL. 

Lastly, I have been working on some very exciting things that I hope to be announcing very soon!!!!

21 thoughts on “Tidbits

  1. I had to. It didn’t say what I wanted it to say otherwise.

    I took nothing out, just added a bit in. I hope you won’t fault me for it.

    We all know who AGirl is. 😉

  2. I would think she would have to have a slightly different URL even if she uses the same “byline”. I never even thought of filing trademark paperwork on the blog. I’ve debated about a copyright notice, but that’s always be a “mañana” list item. Bottom line, we know who you are. We might get to know her too, and I don’t expect it will be too difficult to tell the twins apart.

    • I am sure her URL is different. It’s fine. I am very attached to my blog name because it was instrumental in my healing, but yes, it’s not a big deal. As I said, I am sure she is a great lady and you know I support women shooters and anyone trying to advocate, educate, promote what we all hold so dear. I am human and sometimes things annoy me that shouldn’t:)

  3. Ma’am a name is only what you make of it and YOU have made it SHINE! I would add the honorific LADY, and all the attributes that accrue. Keep up the great work. III

  4. Read your post “full Circle” got a lot out of it, well written from the heart ! Ditto what sourmashed and Amy said.

  5. As others have said, a name is just a name. We know ya.

    As for those who complain about your posts…well…one, its a free world, they’re free to not read them if they find them offensive/repetitive/boring. Two, you’re NEVER going to make everyone happy. Just because you woke up this morning, you pissed someone off. My philosophy is to be polite to everyone, but if they’re not open to reciprocate, then I’m not going to bend over backwards to make every single person (7billion+, at last count) happy. Some folks aren’t happy unless they’re making everyone else more unhappy than they are…and not playing their game REALLY pisses em off (plus, its great fun to watch them sputter and turn red as they get flustered!!!).

  6. I’ve changed posts to be more intelligible before. I often post in a ranting fugue state where the words are flung violently at the keyboard without regards to coherency.

    Having someone come along and say, “uh, what?” can be very helpful.

    Never hesitate to ask! Don’t worry if your questions cause an edit for clarity.

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